Why do people make such a big deal about the way other people dress? To me it's never made any sense, but maybe that's because I simply wear what's comfortable.
When I see people dressed a certain way, one or more of the following may (if I am really paying attention because 99% of the time I got better things to worry about) go through my head:
- That's a nice outfit
- That's not a nice outfit
- That looks comfortable/uncomfortable
- Those are nice shoes/T-shirt/pants, etc.
Am I going to think you're an awesome person or a terrible person because of that? No. Clothes are just that: Clothes. I don't know who you are, so what gives me the right to think you're this way or that way just because of you're wearing this or that?
Your clothes do NOT determine that you're good or bad at something, that you're this way or that way. Yeah, some people make what they wear their personal billboard, and that's fine, but that's NOT everybody. Your clothes do not define whether you're:
- trying toooooo hard to impress
- are a slut
- are a convict
- Etc... (i.e. all the shit people judge others for)
Thus, I fail to understand how it is that people think that it is the clothes is what makes the man (or woman), or why people think that the way you dress is a reflection of yourself. I mean, what about uniforms? Or dress-codes? Yeah, yeah... those things reflect a business or institution, yadda yadda yadda, but that's all it does. It does not indicate that you're smart or stupid, or what have you. The way people dress does not tell you all the things people like to believe it tells you.
If you dress like a bum,does that mean you're lazy and lack confidence, and poor as hell? No.
If you dress like a super model, that does not mean you're filthy rich, and confident? No.
I like to dress comfortably--when I buy clothes, I have practicality in mind; in other words, I'm not going out of my way to make a statement. Apparently, though, since I dress comfortably, I fall under the "bum" category. Makes no sense, though. I'm not lazy, I'm fairly confident in myself, and I am very financially secure. The only time I go out of my way to shop for clothes is because they eventually become dysfunctional. Like, I wait until shit starts falling apart.
To give another example, I've met people who are super smart, confident, and a bunch of other attributes that people would consider favorable, but then there's one so-called "problem": they dress like bums. And, since they dress like bums--and therefore are lazy--then why is their house/desk/car/you name it sparkling clean? If we're going to judge, isn't messiness a sign of laziness?
Likewise, I've come across people who look "so good," they look as if they fell right out of fashion magazine, but guess what: they're dumb as a rock!
So what gives? I find the whole fashion thing incredibly misleading.
Perhaps I'm just so clueless about this whole thing because I like to be practical and I like to feel comfortable. If I wear something that "looks good" yet it's uncomfortable as hell, then you better believe it I'm going to be so cranky, I'll be unbearable.
I know that whether we like to admit it or not, we all judge... there's no getting around that. But when it comes to clothing... I really just don't care. Personally, I have bigger priorities than looking as if I fell out of Vanity Fair. Likewise, I'm going to like (or not like you) because of who you are, not because of what you decided to wear.
When I go to work, I go to work. I don't go with the intention to parade along the hallways of the building pretending I'm on a catwalk. If I'm going to the store to get some milk and bread real quick, then I'm not going beyond making sure I'm clean. If my job didn't have a dress-code, I'd wear the same thing I wear everywhere else--jeans and a T-shirt.
At work, it's "business-casual", but then when some big wig is visiting, all of a sudden it's "business professional" because that gives a "good image." But I say: so what if it does? For all we know, despite the "good image", the place is maybe being run by a bunch of jack-asses. Having a bunch of people looking "business professional" does not make 'em business-like, let alone professional. It's nothing but an illusion... an illusion that we like to blind ourselves with. Reality is always different.
I was in the military, and although the uniforms looked "sharp", believe me when I tell you this, I worked with quite a few morons that did not fit the profile that the uniform tried to "represent".
All in all, clothes do not make the men (or woman) for me. Your actions (and, occasionally, what comes out of your mouth) does.
I'm not against looking good in an outfit. If you do look good wearing a certain outfit, that's perfectly fine. But I'm not thinking anything beyond "That's a nice outfit." I'm not going to think "You look good therefore you must be smart, and hardworking." Likewise, if you look bad wearing a certain outfit, that's perfectly fine, too. I'm not going to think "You look like shit, therefore you must be insecure and lazy."